You can't assume that someone loves you and allow him to say he just doesn't "get into" things that show love. You need to ask for what you need that shows you love, and make decisions based on whether your request is respected and responded to.
Very true and so well said -- it's just that "making those decisions" is just oh so painful. WRT KD's comment, if your spouse refuses to speak your LL, I agree you can try to look for how they express love and accept that for what it is, but as someone who is in that place now, I believe two things:
1) It's a recipe for long term frustration and suffering
2) The reason your spouse won't speak your LL isn't because they're not capable, or "not into it", it's because they're not motivated. That lack of motivation is most likely rooted in lack of attraction. You're both going to be aware of that, and it's going to continue to push you apart.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
