Thanks for your input. I really appreciate it. Like I said, Im still in relationship autopsy, but this time around it's different due to the fog being gone, and I can really see things for the way they were. When you're around that kind of crazy, you really start to question if it's you or not. I've spent alot of the last few years of our marriage trying to "normalize" his behavior, but as time marches on I can see there's nothing normal about it.
Honestly Im really beginning to think he has bi polar disorder and it just threw him into MLC...given depression is the driver of MLC in the first place. XH told me years ago that he used to have times when he'd be really depressed and he never understood why during his teens. He said it would last a day or two, or sometimes a week or two, and then it would be gone. He said he got used to it and learned it would pass. BINGO. I also found a link somewhere here in the archives how BI polar disorder can really look like Narcissism but there is a difference. XH fit Bi polar to a T. Hmmm....
At this point I know our children are safe with him. However if the OCD issues get worse and his "control freak" gets freakier, then something will have to be done. He normally only has the girls 1 night a week. Though OW seems "out to lunch" and not into starting a blended family, I do feel if XH got realy crazy she'd make sure the girls were safe and put XH in his place. Her Xh had a history of mood disorders too. Looks like she's attracted to that sort of thing and is repeating something.
Honestly that's the stance I've taken with the girls. When he went nutts about the IPOD I just sat them down and told them that Dad has some issues and wasn't very mentally healthy. D12 looked me straight in the eye and said " I know mom. I know. I can really tell now. I just don't know what to do when he acts that way".
My XH is 6ft 1 and over 300 pounds. If he thought he was going to get some tail by shaving his tail now that's a delusion of granduer if I've ever heard it.
Thanks you guys! It really helps to have friends like you to talk to and help me get some things straight! Im forever grateful to you.
