thinking on new life w/o X

[forward]

I realize the mistake I made was in feeling hopeful that D would become a higher priority.

I need to write him off entirely and not have any expectations in terms of improvement. Great if he does, but for the most part, she has been a consistent third or fourth priority to him, and I don't think that will change much.

Sleeper, I find that the last years of the marriage have now eclipsed the times that I once thought of fondly. It's as if early on, they see only the negative and we see the positive. Now when I think of being married to X, I think primarily of the negative aspects of being married to him and have a hard time remembering positive side to the M. I certainly don't have much to say in positive terms regarding his personality, and yes, I do see him as selfish.

Just remember...when you came on here you saw something worth saving, and so did I.

I think it's a self-protective measure on our parts......