meh... The scripts are the same but the behaviours can be sooooo different...
My W does many opposites yet does many exaggerations, as well. I joke about the bathroom seat, because she surely has OCD tendencies, her more recent was a rant at the school regarding lice as my D9 had 4 cases of it last school year. Basically wanting the school to go back to a no nit policy. Her anxiety has been through the roof on some things... yet... she can drive a 27' RV on a two lane highway with no shoulders at highway speeds... when she couldn't drive on a 4 lane, divided highway in a car when the wind was lightly drifting snow across it.
But in regards to transitioning from replay to depression...
HB described the visible symptoms of depression as follows: "They will be on the verge of tears, most of the time, pacing the floor, losing sleep, afraid of the dark-or maybe what's in it; unable to escape negative thoughts, cutting themselves down in word and action. Extreme guilt may compound this stage, and there is so much pressure, they become forgetful, irritable, want to be left alone, somewhat argumentative, sometimes unresponsive-want to take long drives, sit looking out the window-their silences are long and painful, as they don't want to talk about it preferring instead to think and brood."
I think it might be easier for the LBS of co-habiting spouses to observe the depression. Those who aren't, I suppose might see it as further distancing (if they aren't leaning towards or are the "Vanisher" types) and perhaps back to that empty stare... expressionless faces... or even wild mood swings...
