This is a start for you. Don't avoid it but face it head on.
You are an LBS and that means that you are like the spouse of an addict. You do not want to enable his behavior.
It is his crisis and he needs to help himself. You can not FIX him or make him better. It is all up to him.
Midlife amplifies previouse problems in life. So if he is depressed his whole life, midlife(now I am not talking about a crisis but just midlife) will make that worse. If you hurt your shoulder in your teenage years when you get to midlife it is worse.
People that smoke will die of cancer at midlife. It is a very stressful time for your body. This applies to men and women. Add in a crisis to all of this and it is even worse.
So what do YOU do? FOCUS on DAWN, make DAWN the best possible person and mother possible. If that is what you become then you will just be awesome in your next relationship be that with your husband or someone else.
All that homework will help. The stages of MLC are good for you to understand what is happening but then after that it is best to not worry about it.
Like it says in my POST he is in REPLAY. That can last a VERY long time. So don't worry about it since it is out of your control.
