I really know what you mean about H not taking care of himself. Mine passed out Fri. due to heat and dehydration. Working 14 hours in the direct sun only having had coffee and cigarettes for breakfast, caught up with my 52yr old H.
He's past the "vanity stage" (thank God) last yr he did this gig in a bandana with cut offs (eeewww) and baby oil for the sun. This yr he's just so neglectful of himself he can't even drink water.
I will look up codependency and see what it is about. The name alone sounds like it describes me. I was 21 when we meet, no parents at the time, and pissed at the world. He was my rock!
One day at a time is right. H has had to do nothing on his own except work for a long time.
I just want to reach out and put him in my bubble and protect him.
I would like to hear about your boundaries, we still live together.
Good luck to you!!!
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
