WAW Spouce wife says she is not in love with me.

[~ kd ~]

I read somewhere that you should just cut all ties. Not sure

Did you read that in DB or here? That sounds odd, even for DB.

Does your ILs get to see the kids otherwise? Just curious.

Here's the thing. You decide whether you want to continue a R with the ILs. The reality is, they ARE family to your kids.

Why would you want to cut ties with them?