Originally Posted By: labug
Why I love these boards, I always get something that point so what I need to learn.

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Are you saying that during the conversations with your W, you did not put any of your needs on the table?


I needed to hear(read) that.

Thanks, KD.


NP, bug. cool

I continue to work on that, myself.

A stable M is different than a WAS is different than MLC is different than A is different than piecing... etc... at least, as a sitch...

And yet, the work is the same, in most cases... for the LBS...

Except in piecing and a stable M... OUR needs as well as appropriate boundaries are OK and should be stated clearly.

Until we are in a stable M / R or in piecing... our needs have nothing to do with our spouse and are likely contrary to and/or conflictual with THEIR needs.

And for them, that's their new norm. It sux... but it is what it is...