If She Won't Stop the Affair?

[wont_stop]

I had a good time with the kids and did my best to enjoy the weekend with them. The issues came from her, but not in tantrums or arguments between us.

In the car ride, we ended up talking. No fighting, just discussing. WW made it clear that she wants a divorce and that she wants to start a life with the OM. We are set to go into mediation at the end of the month.

It's funny, but I don't feel so upset. I'm sad, but I seem to be able to handle this reality now. I probably will get depressed later in the week, but somehow hearing from her directly let me accept this reality. I'm not giving up all hope, but I believe my chances with her are pretty low now. I have not expectations of R anytime soon.

Later that weekend, I could not help but let her know that if things did not work out with to OM, maybe we could work it out. A mistake, I'm sure, but it did seem to touch her.

Sunday evening got weird. WW and her mother and brother went out to the balcony and started arguing. I did not know what was going on, but they asked me out and then her mother wanted to know if I was ok with the kids going places with WW. Her mother does not trust WW to take the kids out on her own. It was a strange place to be in, so I said I was ok with it, as long as she wasn't going off out late like she has in the past.

I left that evening to go home to work. I get a call from WW and she is crying. She says after I left, her mother and brother got on her case and told her I was out to get all her money. This is after my mother in-law asked me for permission for WW to take the kids out? WW said she was the one defending me, and they told her she was stupid to trust me. I'm in bizarro land. I understand her family's view, but I don't get her at all. She keeps treating my like I'm her normal husband, confiding in me. She doesn't seem to get that our marriage is ending. She even wants me to go on this cruise in December we had planned, for the kids sake. I just don't get her. She has no idea the pain she is causing me with her infidelity, and I know she won't, but it still bothers me.