BC, this is all good advice. I can understand your reaction, but you need to slow down your thinking and relax a bit. (to the old timers here, yes, I see the irony in saying this.)

Phrases like "smothering" and "different levels" are telling, right? Sounds like you've done great over the years and need to make a little adjustment now that your at altitude and cruising speed.

You said you show her every day how much you love her. How about every other day? wink Leave the in between days open for HER to show YOU how much she loves you.....when she's ready. Sounds like she might want you to do some things for you. Just a guess.

GAL man. GAL.