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[Serenity13]

Kaffe,

There was no judging on my part... While I respect your opinion, I still stand by mine. Having been diagnosed with bi-polar back when I was 16, I know all too well what it is like to live with depression, as well as mania for that matter.

I have been in the lowest of lows, as well as the highest of highs and not one time since I was diagnosed did I ever do something that I was not fully aware of. Not once did I decimate those around me, nor did I cheat, nor did I lie, nor did I gaslight my spouse to the point of almost no return, nor did I steal, nor did I ignore my kids like they did not exist etc...

Regardless of whatever mental health issue one may (or may not) have, slapping a label like "the fog" on them, allows the BS to justify and make excuses for the behavior. There is no justification for the treatment that I have witnessed, either to myself or to those on these boards.

Some of this goes on for YEARS and I will never believe that one is in a "fog" for 3 or 5 or even 10 years. IMO that is utter doo-doo and once the BS can stop making excuses for the behavior of their spouse, they can begin to process and heal. Otherwise, they will continue to ride the roller-coaster and be at the mercy of their spouse and their crazy behavior... Which is what I am trying to help Mac get off of.