I might ask W if I can take the kids out to lunch or dinner for a couple hours on our anniversary (of course not bringing up anniversary to W). If W volunteers to come, that would be great. One again, no expectations and it’s highly doubtful she would take me up on that one. Do you think this would be an ok question to ask W or should I probably just avoid even asking?
If you do that every week and it's just a routine thing to do then fine. Otherwise it comes across as a very thinly veiled overture to have W celebrate your anniversary with you -- it's completely transparent, and you're using the kids as bait to get what you want.
I would plan to do something fun yourself that night, and I would not bring up your anniversary at all unless W does, in which case you should mirror and not escalate. Focus on sorting out the finances! That's your road back, that's the key to your sitch, so you should give it 50% of your focus, and your kids the other 50%.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
