Thanks man, I definetly will now ask her too many things, and will let her know I am here to listen if she needs to talk. No pressures..
In her complains about me, is that she does not wants to feel neglected again. It is pretty valid for her to feel like this, and I am changing that on my part. I know it is about me making the changes for me, and yes it is for me so I can regain that spark in my marriage. It is also for her, why not? afterall she is the one that I love. It is for my kids, they deserve all the good things of a happy family.
Eric, it is pretty scary falling back into our old habbits. Regarding the stuff she is being doing for me, I do not want her to believe that is her "duty" to do this for me. I do help her cook, and yesterday I began doing the laundry on my own, before she got home from work. She ask me why, and that she would do the laundry today. I said, I know I am just giving you a head start, and smile. I am keeping this habbits for me, as I mentioned before I am a better man, I will be a better man and continue to become a better man...
Eric, It does hurt knowing she is grieving the loss of OM. It is very hard listening to your words, yes, to know your own W is grieving for somebody else is tough. I would say hispanic pride does not have to do with any of this. We are humans, and this is the reason it hurts.
Eric, I do not start conversations about OM, and I will definetly follow your advice to just stop that at all. How would she forget about him, if I am constantly remainding her about it? It is really clear in my head, and when she starts that conversation I drift it to something different and positive.
I have tried doing something with her, come up with different ideas, but all of them have hit a wall. I already tried making a romantic getaway, tried taking her dancing, even something so simple as going to the movies. They all have hit solid rock..
The spark that keeps a relationship alive is hidding really good somewhere, and it is just a matter of finding where and what it is again...
Eric, I will find a way to make my W feel special all over again. Thanks for your input, it feels good to see the positives of everything that is going on. Thank you for your opinion, and support..
