Newbie and ready for hard work

[dj21]

Laughter, I love laughter...thanks KD for the posts, okay how about insight and laughter, that would be more truthful. The laughter was regarding "affair down", I never looked at my situation that way. I compare myself to OW and try to wrap my thoughts around the craziness of the OW my H has chosen. The OW is 28, parties, weekend trips to concerts and events, constantly leaves her children with her parents during her visitation week, and looks worn out. The OW was married once, then had an affair with her H's friend, then that friend moved in with her, then she had an affair with that mans friend, who then moved in with her, that friend was someone my husband was friends and then...tada...she messed around with my husband, broke up with that man and moved my H in a few months later. Whew...The comparing is hard for me a lot of the times. I LOVE being a mom, wife, and holding down the home. But, my H complained a lot about US not doing things. We had our yearly vacation as a family, but during the rest of the year not so much. Typical weekends were spent catching up on chores at home, watching a movie maybe, hanging out with the kids. It was hard for our family to go do things as a group, we have to take two vehicles and we have children with special needs. When my H moved out my MIL stated to me, "You have manipulated and controlled my son for years, he just wants to have fun, the OW is a nice girl, let him go, get on with your own life"!!! That was a punch in the gut, and wasn't even easy to type and put out there for everyone to read here. I stopped being fun. I read a post that mrbond had to someone, it hurt to read, but I think I need to pay attention to it. Mrbond stated...the OW isn't feeding your H's ego, she is giving your H what he wasn't getting from you.... In all honesty, It makes me feel better sometimes to think of what the OW looks like and say to myself "eww", and she looks, in my opinion like a female version of Marilyn Manson:) But, she is providing my H with the fun...he must have really missed having fun, because that is all he does. 4 days a month with our children and the rest is NO responsibilities, fun, fun, fun! Okay... enough of my trash talk. I am working on doing the opposite of my norm, I am doing things, not just staying home, it is uncomfortable...and it is fun.