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[ericmsant2]

Bad

Don't really have time for 'me'; one of the casualties of being a dad

Make TIME. Sorry dude, I am single parent with 3 kids and I have found that although it is TOUGH and I know how tough it is…it is also CRITICAL for you to have some “me” time. Oh…and FTR, women find that attractive in a man!

So what about doing some GAL that involves the kids?

So GAL, GAL, GAL...

Great advice from Kaffe Diem…just also make sure you have some Me time.

Level of self worth is low

Probably cause you are NOT taking care of yourself. Look dude…to be a good father..ya kinda have to be a good man..and taking care of yourself is the key to being a good man (I am not saying you are not a good man).

Don't leave your home or your kids but you may have to leave her side for awhile. One of the biggest mistakes I made in my marriage was that I continued to push her to make a decision. If I hadn't done that she might not have decided to file for divorce. So do yourself a favor, step back, breath and GAL, just make sure that she knows that you are there for her when she is ready.

Bad – please read this ^^^ again!

Is it something I did ?'

Stop assuming it is YOU. Look dude, I am all for you being there for her but do NOT smother her. You have already said to her that you will be there for her. IMO, you are operating under the FEAR that the past will happen again. Stop it. YOU really have no control over it. The only person you have control over is YOU. So please dude, focus on YOU…go out…give her the space she needs. Make yourself attractive again. If the time seem right, ask her out for a date (no kids). Create a SPARK dude… but before you do that the SPARK has to exist in YOU.

One thing she told her mom, is that 'him and I are on completely different levels in this relationship, and I don't know how to or if I can get to his level'

If you are talking to the family about it – STOP. Look dude, on one hand you say you want to give her space but on the other hand your ACTIONS come across as if YOU FEEL THAT YOU CAN FIX IT.

Look at her words….she is not sure if she can get to his level….if she knows how to.

She is processing dude, allow her to. While she is though you have the PERFECT opportunity to change stuff up a little and create a little more attraction. A nice romantic date, a nice evening of getting busy…(if ya know what I mean). That said, don’t push it but if the opportunity is there – just ask her.

You need to go back to some basics dude….start working out, doing some more stuff for you. You should happy and upbeat…

Peace,
Eric