In home separation? Off / On? Still WAW? Dunno

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It was W's birthday yesterday and I 'd made an effort making sure that we had cards and gifts sorted out in advance.

My kids wrote their own cards and inside each one was a gift voucher for 2 hot drinks and 2 cakes at a new coffee shop.

I said to my w that it would be cool for my kids to take you out for coffee seperately on different days like a fun date.

My W said , 'we could all go together' and I replied, 'nah, you should go seperately with the kids and let them feel like they are treating you'.

That's the first time in months that my w has suggested that we do something together (even as a family) that didn't involve other people.

I rejected the offer because it was not my intention for us all to go together and because I had so much fun taking D8 there on my own, I wanted my W to have fun with the kids 1 on 1.

I think maybe even just 6 weeks ago, I would have got 2 vouchers for that place with the hope that my w would invite me along.

It's good when an action just happens, so that you can reflect and see where you are at.

The rest of the day I made a big effort because my w's mum and dad are away on holiday and I knew she would miss them.

I made pancakes for breakfast and a huge roast for dinner.

I feel good about yesterday, knowing that I put the effort in for w's birthday without any expectations and for the kids to enjoy the day with their mum.

I need to get back on track with my running - setting myself a goal of 3 5k runs and a long bike ride this week.

I've got a month to get physically ready for this teaching course - need some of Adinva's will power and goal power