Funny Walking, my sister keeps telling me that she wonders what I would have done as an artist without this last 12 years of waiting for the other shoe to drop from my STBXH. And she has been thru a divorce and more recently the death of her 2nd husband. So I listen to her, because she has a grip on reality I sometimes lack!

My sister always thought I was going to take the art world by storm. She thinks I have been wasting my talent. Now I also have a big fan in my DIL and several members of my quilt guild. And when they give me compliments I feel like I don't deserve them. I am working on that.

This DB stuff is teaching me so much about how to deal with all the people in my life. For example:

When people give me compliments in public. I had this mean little gal who has (I'm guessing) many issues of her own interrupt the president of our guild who was bragging about my great class she attended. The mean gal wanted to say that you can learn indigo dyeing by going to the library or searching the internet.

In the old days I would have been hurt by her grumpyness. Now I see that other things have made her mean. And I was able to validate her, right then and there. I responded that that was a good method to learn, and that I viewed my classes more as a workshop where we can share different things we have learned.

Another example is the other night my neighbor called me at 7 in the evening to tell me his dogs were barking because of people going up my driveway. And disturbing his wife. I didn't tell him his dogs bark all night fairly often and seem to be barking at the wind blowing through the trees.

I let him vent. And it turned out his wife had had a masectomy that day, and was trying to sleep. And he had a lot of anger and no where to put it. I let it run off my back like water off a duck. And I promised him we would keep the noise down on my side of the road. He never calls me. And I have called him, and vented to him in the past. So when I saw an incoming call from him I knew it must be something.

The good part about all this learning about how to deal with other people is you come away from these interactions feeling better, not worse, about yourself.

Well it is bedtime here. I need to get my sleep so I can keep getting over this cold.

Aloha,

Wendy

Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32
D final 9/12
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