Haha TVS..forgot to tell you guys I organised a small surprise birthday party for H yesterday. I thought it would cheer up his miserable a$$. It had the desired effect but when it came to thank me for all the work I had put in he almost choked on the words!! Compliments to me don't come easy to this man. Anyway it was a fun day and I had fun organising it. Of course it was totally unconditional. I just wanted to see him enjoy his friends because he complains that he hasn't got any. I think its mostly jealousy of my huge circle of friends.
He received plenty of gift vouchers as gifts. The first thing he said was that he was going to spend it all on a brand new wardrobe for himself....and I can tell you it adds up to quite a considerable amount of money. I laughed hysterically to myself..thinking of my MLC sisters across the ocean.
Thanks for your thoughts TVS. Hope you are doing well too.
That's splendid. I love you could selflessly do a party for him. I'm sure it meant so much to him even if he couldn't...couldn't...couldn't say so.
New wardrobe, huh? In a skinny size? My H didn't change sizes but, come to think of it, he has a totally new wardrobe since moving out. Everything from head to toe is new. Must mean something to them.
I forgot to tell you guys something too. S18 texted me when I was out last night and said there is a half-grown rattlesnake loose in the house. He tried to catch it but it got away. Will the adventures never end?
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
Gal, that was very nice of you to organize the party. It is something I'm sure you would do for a friend who is down needed you, and right now he IS a friend that needs you whether he realizes it or not. If/when he comes out of the fog, I have no doubt he will remember your kindness.
Please please fill us in on the new wardrobe! Maybe you could offer to go with him and pick out some new clothes??? Would that be a fun 180?
RH, I've been trying to figure out what's more dangerous... A half grown rattlesnake or a full grown MLCer during a crazy alien spew? I think I might take my chances with the snake
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Hey guys, I enjoyed organising the party and it was a big 180 for me. H has always loved entertaining but I have never been very confident. I'ts never been a strong point of mine. So it was just as much for me as him. I found it a challenge and did a really good job of it. Go me!
Friendship aspect here is going well. One of my goals is for H is to show me small gestures of affection. Still nothing. I occasionally reach out to him in a non-threatening way. But no moves from him. Any suggestions from you wise DB'ers?
I'm so happy you organized the party, being it out of your comfort zone but did a great job of it and were encouraged.
Idk about H showing you affection. I'm terrible with advice. I hope someone else can give you some. Just wanted you to know I read and appreciated your post.
I think it takes a long time for the WAS to want to show spontaneous affection. Plus your H is definitely depressed sounds like. Is vacation a possibility? I don't remember if you'd said anything about that.
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
RH do you mean vacation with H. We have something booked at the end of the year which has been booked for 12 months. I am too scared to talk about it, because I don't want it to be considered pressure. I'm still hopeful we will go together. In the meantime, I lost my job yesterday. I am devastated, but I might take a well earned short break before I go full swing into job hunting again.
Found it hard to sleep last night. Didn't need this...@@it happens...keep pushing on.
Oh Gal, sorry to hear about your job. Its the last thing you need right now I'm sure.
But... Trying my best PMA here... They say when one door closes, another opens. Wonder what door will be opening for you?
Maybe don't say anything to your H about the vacation, but keep it as something to possibly look forward to in the back of your mind. Who knows how he will be when the time comes?
Sorry again for the bad news. Sending good thoughts your way
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
