aah KD - here i was getting comfortable in the knowledge that hey KD is here to walk me through this. he'll keep asking me questions and i'll get the easy way out..
but alas - it's down to the wire on this one for me isn't it?
My dear zig... you are practically a vet here, now... you are in the advanced course and need to formulate your own questions...
And we will guide you according to your choices...
Originally Posted By: zig
When the effect of what several people do, intentionally or unintentionally together, and one little person is affected, does one TOGETHER find the solution or does one take it on oneself to repair the damage that may have been done from their part in it?
You are looking at this from a perspective of protecting...
fear...
Rather than from a position of responsibility...
support...
You need to neither protect your H nor your S...
You need to support your S... IF he finds out... it is not yours to share. It is your H's to own.
Would you HELP your son or HURT your son if you told him?
Would you HELP your son or HURT your son if you withheld the knowledge?
Does a 10 year old need to know this information?
By telling him, rather than risking him hearing it "in the street", are you protecting your child?
Or rather...
No matter what happens... you will simply be there as a responsible parent, to support your S... no matter what happened... good or bad... in his life... regardless of it being THIS... or something else...
Are you protecting your S from all the other EVIL and HARM that could ever happen in his life, at least for the next 6 years?
and i'll get the easy way out..
