It was at her invitation. She wanted to go yesterday but I declined because I had a fishing trip planned. She said that it was fine and she would wait until today so we could all go together.
W and S came over about mid morning and we rode together to a nearby city to do our shopping.
Soon after getting in the car she pulls out her pill bottles and takes a xanex and half a zoloft.
I asked her if she was feeling better. She said she was. But that she needs to get a refill of the xanex soon. That her mood swings have leveled out. She wasn't sure if it was the zoloft or the xanex or the combo of the two.
I said I was glad she was feeling better and left it alone. I talked to my db coach recently and he said that I should only talk to her in a frienly manner about this subject. That it would be easy to talk down to her about it and that would make me lose all influence over the matter. Only if she asks my opinion should I speak out. And then in a tactful manner.
While out shopping she added a bottle of wine to the buggy. She said "this stuff is sooo good."
So that is the "bad" of the day. And not necessarily bad. Just out of character.
Also on our ride she said she wanted to drop me from her medical insurance plan. While this is perfectly acceptable,and something I have been checking into on my own, it reminded me that she is still intent on moving on.
We had a nice time I thought. I didn't feel awkward like I have. We carried on light chit chat. She asked if if we could go eat lunch at ____. It was our favorite restaurant as a couple on our date nites. It reminded me of many good times. Maybe it did her as well.
At one point while we were shopping she bent over to pick something off a low shelf. I reached out and carressed her bottom like I used to do. It was a fraction of a second and nothing vulgar I assure you. She looked back in a curious manner. I said I couldn't help it and gave her a wink. She smiled from ear to ear and went on about her business.
On our ride home I asked her if she would like to go out to eat next weekend. That I could find a sitter or we could make it a family nite. She thought about it for a few moments and said let's make it a family nite.
It will be on our anniversary (which I did not mention but I am sure she is aware). My db coach suggested that I ask her out and present these two options.
Oh, my fishing trip was great. Didn't catch much but had a good time.
