Thanks guys!! Bug you know me so well! That strawberry story really resonated with me. I even told him how I was trying to solve it as if it were a puzzle. Zig I don't know how I got to where I am but I think if I look back every month I could have said "I didn't think I would feel like way a few weeks ago" I think I am well and truly detached but then you don't ever know until something happens and you realise it's affecting you...so I think the big difference is I'm not scared of being attached or not. Yes I still sometimes find myself letting my thoughts drift to him but it's once every 3 days and it's not about missing him more about how much his life has changed his relationship etc. I think for me when he brought up that ex coworker I just thought even in a very happy moment you try to cloud it with being petty and that's not how I want to live. I'm looking forward to next week when I can catch up on everyone's sitches and we all be detached and happy!
