So, my mum and i started talking again. I have been spending a lot of money recently to prepare DD for her trip to stay with her grandparents. My mum thinks i shld pursue H for child support legally. I realised i'm kinda supporting him financially by letting him get away with not supporting his child.

I've decided to involve the Child Support agency on Monday. My mum thot it would be a good idea to ask him for the child support first.

So i sent this email to H yesterday:

"what is the plan with dd's money? you haven't sent her money for the past four month. may i ask why?"

H has not yet replied. i'm a bit embarrassed by the wording of my email. i think i shld/could have done much better. Part of me worried about H seeing this as pursuing behaviour, but that is his problem. this is about getting child support for DD (i've been borrowing a lot).

I was planning to call child support tomorrow, but i'll give him up to wednesday to reply?

Me 33, H 34
T 15 (on and off, 7 years this stretch)
M 4
DD 3
OW July 2010, IDLY - Oct 2010

1st sep 28/5/11-14/8/11 (my idea)
OW confirmed 25/11/11 (H travelled with OW 26/11/11)
I moved out 3/12/11