New to separation. Am I doing the right things?

[Arsene]

I understand your frustrations Rough. It's their choice to walk out on their family and cause all of this devastation and we're the ones picking up the broken pieces.

The thing is, for now, it's pretty much a one way street. They're not really interested in this R and have moved on a long time ago. It still gets to me that W can be so careless with D8 but I try to look at it in the way that she isn't well right now and she is probably going through as much as we are, if not more.

I think that one day, they'll realize what they've done (or not done) and feel really bad about it but for now it's like a kid with a hamster. There's just so much out there to attract their attention that they start neglecting that hamster they swore they would take care of.

I think that Bond's advice is good. It'll also be noticed by W and I'm sure she'll appreciate the help and it will make you more than just the disciplinarian to your kids. You'll also be seen as a care provider.

Good luck mate,