KD-I need to read and re-read this...Okay, first of all yes, my understanding of detachment is to "FEEL" less attached, which also meant to me, to care less, love less and I was struggling with that thinking. How you explain it makes it more clear for me, and to see it as an attainable goal. I am struggling to articulate this so try to follow with patience, I think that I have a "you owe me" attitude towards my marriage with all that is going on, almost as though my H "SHOULD", do things just because I have. Those would be those expectations, I need to drop those little buggers out of my thinking. As I read your explanation on detachment, it is almost as if I should think about my H as I would my grandfather, I adore him, love him completely...but what he does or doesn't do has no bearing on if I enjoy my days or not. Is this what you mean? Or am I still missing something?
M 43 H 43 M 21 T 24 Bomb 9/2011 EA 9/2011 H moved out 10/2011 I filed for D out of anger 2/2012 H moved in with OW 3/2012 focused on blame and bitterness 9/2011-6/2012 found DB 7/2012
