Hello DBers! Updates.....H offered to clean my house before I return from working away from home. S who is 17 has been staying part with me and part on his own. H has been stopping in and said of course it's pretty messy but before you get back I'll give it a good clean. I *almost* said you don't have to do that and then I thought this man only cleaned when I was coming back from a trip or I was really upset and he wanted to make it up to me...just let him be nice if he wants to! And then I don't have to do it!!! Other than that we haven't had much communication and it hasn't bothered me. I haven't looked at his FB for over a week. Too busy and don't care.
I have had a couple dates! Date number one was very nice but I think we could be better as friends. Early into dinner he was telling me about a woman who works for him and they are so close such good friends a lot of people think they're a couple etc and I thought ooh big red flag a) sounds codependent or b) you're secretly in love with her. I would be his friend we have some of the same hobbies. Date number two is my total opposite usual type I usually like the tall dark broad shouldered etc he's short, blonde, and smaller built hmmm and not my type that few other ways which is hard to explain in American terms. LOL he had asked me out before I'd left town and I said oh I'll be back mid August and then he said I was thinking of going, I'll be around for a few days if you have any time. So we went for dinner and he was very easy to talk to. He was unassuming, didn't take himself too seriously. I just had fun in the moment. It was the first time on a date maybe my whole life that I wasn't trying to impress or trying to be on my best behaviour or even choosing my words carefully. We laughed a lot. The next day he found out my schedule and booked a restaurant for a late meal. At dinner we're talking and he brings up meditation. He is the last sort of guy I would think would he into meditation! Just goes to show that judging a book by its cover. Then he starts talking about how he's into Buddhism and we discuss that for awhile. And we are both saying how we never really talk about this to anyone. Then I mentioned Pema and I say there was this one story I read of hers that really sort of changed my life and I start to tell the story and he jumps in and finishes the story. And I say I can't believe you know that story. He says that he loves that story he even had someone draw up that vignette to hang in his house as a reminder. I couldn't believe it. So we talked for ages about what we'd learned and being happy in yourself and being still. And it was pretty surprising to meet someone I could talk to about these things and that this jokester was really deep! we had a great time dancing in a random Kareoke bar and I hope to see him again. No plans no expectations
Wow Brit! What an excellent update to read! Definitely a two thumbs up!!
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
mods - can we have a strawberry icon please, because we are going to be eating A LOT of strawberries here and it would be so pretty
to brit - one hot damn sassy chick who can eat all the strawberries she ever wants... no matter how many tigers are growling and snarling at her feet....and even have her house cleaned while she's at it!!!
shaking my head in awe - how the hell did she manage all of that in one fell swoop AND get to be at the Olympics AND watch Batman?
what magic formula are you using , girl? spill the beans.
can it be as simple as letting go and mindfulness - damn, i'm stealing those turtles from you like yesterday
busting - let's go turtle stealing tonight during the all-nighter, ok?
i love ya brit - strawberries and all
((((((( ))))))) zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
Face paint is on ...letting go and mindfulness are ours!!!!
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
just thought i would check in and i'm glad i did! you sound good. you are living in your moment and enjoying it. i'm happy for you. it is a good feeling! no plans no expectaions!
