So, look for a L. Get two or three consults if you can. Decide which one you like. And that's it. IF things progress on the D, then retaining or getting further advice from the L will be your next step.
In the mean time, keep standing still on that.
It is interesting... only interesting... nothing more or less... that your H asked OW not to come.
You know how we read about those people who have breakdowns in a M and one spouse gets all clingy and needy and demanding and stuff...
What do you think OW's reaction really will be, as a result of your H asking her not to visit?
As far as your H is concerned... understand that he may need some "support" for his choice in asking OW not to visit.
How might you "support" his choice and be there for him in a way that a friend would? Maybe movie night?
