Ex's Are Like a Virus...They Never Really Go Away!

[sleeper]

Another skirmish in the custody wars yesterday. (I'm already really tired of this)

I went by Xs business to pick up DD. X broached the subject of "why kids should live with me". Her main argument was school (DS starts new one where he tested to gain entry, DD will have last year where she is before moving to another). I was just picking up DD and didn't expect a discussion. I remained calm but it's difficult when someone is telling you why your kids should live with them instead of you. I finally pointed out my opion that her concerns/argument was not valid because DS had straight As all year and both DS and DD daughter rocked their standardized tests at the end of the year last year.

She didn't concede but shifted slightly to kids need to be with their mother and how she can care for them better than I. I smiled at that and she asked why. I responded "I couldn't help but smile cause overheard the kids talking once and they agreed that I take care of them and you spoil them." she wasn't happy with that and tried to twist it around to her doing both.

Fiancé said she things one factor motivating X is the looming empty nest. I think there may be some validity to that as X recently said she was "struggling" with how fast the kids are growing up. It was OK to shove them to mecwhen they were little and she wanted to play with OMH but now sees they're about to grow up and wants all the time left with them for herself.

I was saddened to learn DD wants to live with X. DD is becoming a young woman and says she feels "wierd" living with me now and feels mire comfortable with her mother. Our convo was like a breakup with her beginning, "I don't want to hurt you but....."

I'm generally sick of the whole thing. Equal time with my kids was the only thing I wanted out of the D settlement. I never dreamed Id be facing this years down the road. Happy Birthday (today) to me.