I like to use the DB Bootcamp threads for narrow focused, SBT efforts. So for right, I'm just getting clear on where you are at to see what you may want and work on.
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I understand you feel as though you are fairly detached. What is coming through for me though, is you could use more work on that.
In your personal thread, you mention how your H proceeded with "more of the same" behaviour. ie. Using an opportunity to talk to you about D.
If he is doing "more of the same" then it means YOU are doing "more of the same". He can't do more of the same if you have changed and therefore the sitch has changed.
I see a lot of anger still in your posts. That is understandable. Putting "couple" pictures in a shred pile... you can shred the pictures, but you can't erase the past. Is that "tit for tat", that you feel he's erasing your past so you will do the same?
You mention above that you don't want to be friends with him, atm. The reasons you give is because of the way he HAD (past) acted and is acting.
More of the same from you will reap more of the same from him. If he could no longer act the way he is acting, because the sitch changed, then maybe you COULD be friends with him.
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So...
From where I sit, it seems to me that GAL is in order.
Second, 180s to get rid of the "more of the same" in the sitch.
What are some stuff, maybe 5 things in a list, that you could do that specifically addresses getting out of "more of the same" and attachment?
