one question i do have, and would love other's view on this - we literally do not have any money, to pay for even one appointment here. the only money there is, is my inheritance that my parents gave me which is invested. i asked h yesterday how we/he were going to pay for this? he couldn't even been to answer!
i have agreed to take some of that money out for us to live on this coming month - after all i've lived off his paycheck all this time. but i do not feel comfortable about using it to pay these D bills! any ideas on how to handle this with him?
am i to expect to pay my share for my atty and half the mediator bill?
Z - personally I think that if he wants to file and go through with it he should pay for it himself. If he protests, I think "I'm sure you'll be able to figure it out" would be appropriate.
BUT - and this is very important - YOU MUST pay for YOUR OWN L. It would be a HUGE conflict to have your H to pay for your L to give you legal advice. DO NOT DO THIS!! Can you pay for your L with the new job?
Okay. As for taking money out of the inheritance to pay for things - I'm very leery about that but maybe others can offer better advice. Be careful about using inheritance money for joint expenses and be very clear with H (maybe send him an email and ask him to reply to it with understanding) stating that you are taking out X money for joint purposes but the rest of the inheritance is your own property. You don't want to get in trouble with him saying he's owed half of it because you're using it for marital stuff. Your L should be able to talk to you through that.
