Glad to hear that the ad's are working. Yes, your stbxh and ow have been taking up a lot of space in your head w/o paying rent.
Rest and drink plenty of fluids. It's time Wendy took care of Wendy for a change.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.