You did not break her and you can not FIX her. Nothing you do one way or the other is going to make that much difference to your wifes journey right now.
Let her go on her own but if you need to protect your children then I would rescue, defend, protect or do anything that is needed.
They are your priority right now.
Please stick to one thread until 100 posts as it is much easier to keep track of later down the line.