I understand that it is the complete opposite of what DB recommends, but it is what my therapist who has more experience with our case recommended. And while I agree with DB and am in the process of reading through DR, I also recognize that there is no one size fits all system and that the therapist is also in communication with W and may have insights into my particular case that may not always fit exactly with what DB has to say.
M 39, W 34 M 15 S 14, S 12, S 9, D 7, D 6 Separated: 7/2/2012 Served: 7/10/2012 Divorced 11/5/2012