mil called this morning a bit later - she was practically hysterical!! took a while to get the whole story out, but turned out that late last night she and h talked.
i guess he wasn't all that honest with me today - oh well....
he told her he and ow have bought this package of airline tickets so they can fly back and forth for $100 a pop and that ow is due back next saturday and he's sort of f'ed up agreeing to that.
his relatives are still all in town, and i guess she pressured him big time that she should also be able to come and meet s and his family.
mil freaked on him and i guess told him that he was rushing into things way too fast and that she didn't really care about what was going on with him but he couldn't mess s's life like this with no warning. i guess he got pretty defensive.
but somewhere in there - he told her that he didn't think it was going to work out with ow, and that she was pressuring him a lot . trying not to mind read here....
so, interesting to me because that is the same day that sil's gf and daughter arrive also.
i had already decided before i heard this, that i was going to periodically "remind" h of our promise to each other about when ow is introduced into s's life and his agreement for us to discuss it.
i'm not really freaked by this info - it was a matter of time before the pressure started, i suppose, and it's h's own walls that are cracking under it. mil said she had never seen him so freaked out and upset.
she's praying he'll have the guts to tell her she can't come (he said that's what he wants to do, but doesn't know how to do it)
i'm at the picnic - this is between all of them. i get s back the day before she arrives and will just get in the car and drive the f^ck out of town before i let it happen this way
i can be all sweet and nice and compassionate and understanding until the cows come home, but when it comes to s's emotional well-being - well the badger arises and combines with the big black mama bear and the combination is bl**dy formidable!!!
will just let this play out - i'm just not going to worry about it.
if this had happened even a few weeks ago, i would have really fallen apart - everything happens when i 'm ready to deal with it
off to watch some of those hot sex
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
