Yes, I do understand that communication is key on any relationship of any kind. The problem with that is that I do not want to portray myself as being insecure or weak by letting her know how I feel, or by asking her how she feels. I do not want to cross the line and create a negative image of myself on my W by asking too much. Please, your advice is greatly appreciated.
I do feel the danger of falling back into the old routine. For the first 2 days W was kind of quiet because she is still scared about the SOB, but she is making the effort to recover from that. Monday and Tuesday was kind of stressful because she would not even step out of the bedroom, I was being upbeat and doing STFU. Wendsday, she invited me to go the chicken wings and we actually had a pretty good time. She started talking about our R, she focused on the stuff we did wrong back before our separation. Again I STFU and diverted the conversation to something more positive. Yesterday, she was waiting for me at the house and was cooking. That really got me excited!! For a long time I have wanted for her to do something for me, she even did my laundry. After we ate we went to the store and from there to the park. At the park, she started talking again about our R, but this time it was more positive. She mentioned that she missed me over our separation, but that she was pretty angry about me. She said that the turn around was me being calm, always attentive and patiente. That felt good, but also she said that even though she wants to be with me and work things out, there is "something" missing. I do see her point of something missing, we are starting a new relationship, and we have keep focusing on it and not the wrong things we did. I am not saying to ignore those things because they will happen again, but to move on our new relationship.
Other good thing that happened is that for the first time in a long time she told me she loves me. She does not say that frequently, but for starters is good.
Eric, I am doing 180's on a wrong stuff that I do not want in me. That my friend is a blessing because all the changes have proven positive, and they have influenced my W and kids. W has been working on her self to be more confident, to be more responsible about finances, and also to be more self suficent in things that she can do by herself, but would always wanted me to do. I have struggled with my kids to do their chores, which are basically to do their room, clean the yard and care for the dogs. I have not struggled to tell him to do those things, well not as much . One thing, I have been spending more time with them.
. One thing, I have been spending more time with them.