First off, try not to push to hard. She will talk when she is ready. A therapist may help her sort out her thoughts.
What things are you doing for YOU? Sounds like you are great hubby and dad...but what do you do for yourself?
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans