So my refinance was approved. Guess I should be happy. W should be moving out soon. With her goes my D, dogs and many other things. Gonna experience some changes soon. But I will be ok. She needs to go and get what she is searching for. I know he has a plan so I have let go and feeling better everyday. Weird stuff.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Hey Rick, Continuing to watch your sitch. We are in the lazy hazy crazy days of summer, seems like activity has slowed. Continue to hang in there, your attitude about letting go should serve you well,
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
So my L sent me an email saying that we will be divorced on 8/28/12. I informed W about this since I knew it before her. I thanked her for a wonderfull 20 plus years and she thanked me back. She actually had a smile. She again cooked dinner and served me. So very weird.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Oh not the dreaded Aug 28???? That was the day my own marriage went bust. (H got arrested for DUI, held in jail & later I learned about the affair)> Weird day.
You will survive. You will recover. You will thrive!
That has to be strange. We separated well before the D and I made sure I was a couple of hours away on the day it was finalized. We never and probably will never did the "thanks for the memories talk."
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
Pretty soon that day will come and go and you won't even remember what that day meant. Ok it takes a few years for that to happen. Biggest thing is don't expect to just jump into dating. Take some time to heal, get to being good on your own. Be there for your daughter, she will have waves of being fine and waves of not being so good. You got this!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Pretty soon that day will come and go and you won't even remember what that day meant. Ok it takes a few years for that to happen. Biggest thing is don't expect to just jump into dating. Take some time to heal, get to being good on your own. Be there for your daughter, she will have waves of being fine and waves of not being so good. You got this!
kat
I don't agree that healing is getting used to being totally on your own. Having some non stressful dates with people that like you will speed along the process.
Just popped in to say 'Sup and know this bro.... YOU WILL BE OKAY Man!
Sorry about the D.
Peace Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Aww thanks Bugsy but u know how I feel about those thingys. moving here was a way to admit the reality and I'm becoming ok with it. It kind of pushed me to face the outcome and to start thinking instead of waiting and hoping. It was like weight off my shoulder. the feelings of hopelessness and helplessness needed to stop. I'm not fully over them but working on it. The GALing is so true it really helps. Hard to grasp but I have almost mastered it and feel alot better.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
