Rough: Man I needed a chuckle this morning and you gave it to me. That line about the gift of time is awesome...even though I know its a gift its still a pretty crappy one to me. And yes, its very much b/c many go straight to divorce without ever slowing down...so its very much a gift to have time to work on changing and letting them see those changes.
The second part of the gift of time is that it lets their emotions "cool off" and they will at least at some point have to sit down when a cooler head is prevailing and decide if this is still what they want.
Good your gonna have your kids, mine is going away this weekend with a church group which would normally mean that with him not being with me or her I would sit the entire weekend wondering what she was doing...where she was etc. Lucky for me im in a golf tournament this weekend with a great friend of mine so i'll have that to occupy my time and mind.
Don't even sweat your posts sounding depressing, in my mind this place is here so we can get and give advice to one another, but its also a safe place to rant/whine/be angry and have some community with others who are feeling the same way. It gives us the opportunity to not only get it out, but to gain/give encouragement that whatever it is we're going through we're not alone.
And just to reinforce, I know your not gonna email her, but dangit don't email her. You did a great job of being a listening ear and validating, if she feels the need to say more she will, but your done with that conversation unless she revisits it. Trust me I fell EXACTLY the same way...I miss my W so dang much I want to talk about anything with her, hell if she called and wanted to discuss her period right now i'd be more than happy to talk to her about it just so I could be talking to her.
But we have to stay strong...go back and read the last line of Accuray's post that you quoted...eventually one of two things will happen, either she'll make overture's toward you or she won't. Its that simple, and I can assure you if she keeps getting calls, emails etc from you without having to make that overture then it will never come.
Stay strong my friend, here's to a great weekend....cheers.
