I'm sorry to hear that things are moving this way. I just wanted to add a note of caution about the mediator/lawyers thing. I think a mediator is a WONDERFUL way to go -- I'm a big fan, in uncontested divorce situations -- but you should each ALSO have your own attorney look over the final agreement and advise you before you sign anything.
If you let the atty know you're using a mediator, you should be able to find one that will let you pay them an hourly rate for their review of the document and their advice about it, rather than ask you for some huge retainer.
Whether or not your husband does this is up to him, and I'd recommend that you NOT try to give him legal advice (there's a reason they put that little "v" between the names of the parties in these things). But you definitely should get your own family law attorney.
