I re-read your response this morning and gave it some more thought. While I am not trying to be naive, if I go down that path right now, it will be "more of the same" and I will push him away further. So, I try to take the words of the song "Suspicious Minds" to heart. I've got to believe in him, which I haven't done in a long time.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together