Should I initiate R talk?

[25yearsmlc]

I don't have the time at the moment to respond in full

but at those tough moments w/your d, try assuring her of YOUR love and stability and how long you have loved your wife and always will AND how you will ALWAYS LOVE YOUR D.....

That you "hope" things don't lead to more separation my mc said don't mention divorce unless the child does and EVEN THEN be hopeful

until if and when you KNOW for a FACT it's done...still be hopeful...

b/c you are - and b/c she needs that.

So you can say what I said when my girls asked if we were divorcing

I'd say "I hope not, b/c he's the love of my life"

OR

"I hope not b/c I've loved him a LONG time..."

and I did my best to assure them that their worst fears would NOT occur

but I had to ask what those were....

which were "moving again' and when I said

"oh no more moves, for at least 2 years" that helped A LOT...it meant d16 would finish at her high school and the younger d could not think that far ahead'...

it helped them feel a lot better. Stress what will NOT change for HER....

Friends, school, neighborhood, family nearby?

And if you must move, stress what is good about THAT....make sense?