Hi KD I've asked myself the same question, I'm not sure what else I could do, the only thing that I could think of is win the lottery lol, which I am trying to do! I'm calm and happy most of the time, listen attentively when she talks about work or anything and ask questions, I do the majority of housework and take control of the kids whenever I'm there, if I get a hint from her that she would like help with anything I offer my help, I pay compliments when I feel they're genuine and agree with her on things the large majority of the time.If I do slip up on anything I apologise. I know I can improve further on all these things but I'm completely changing who I am (for me, because over the years I'd become a negative angry person and I never was that person and that was who I'd become in all my life, not just at home or in my R) and that takes time and I think I've made great progress and I'm doing my best to improve her confidence generally.
