New to DB

[hopefulinga]

He told me tonight what the dinner was about. I can say that I know H well enough to know that he wouldn't take on someone about to have a baby. He's 56. He's not going to try to support me and D, this chick, her S that is our D's age and someone else's kid, plus all of his toy habits.

He told me that he she met up with him to ask him if he would hold a fundraiser for her because she is broke and the kid will be born in Sept. He told her no, he was too busy. I know that he has not had communications with her in a while up until last week because he didn't know she was pregnant. She took that as an open opportunity to be a leech. We own a plane so she is assuming that we are rich and I think ius trying to get him to give her money.

I don't have access to his email, phone, etc., and quite hoestly, I don't want to. That has gotten me into trouble in the past. Trust me, I am not happy about her request and would like to slap her. However, the fact that he told me what was going on gives me comfort. I also don't think he's dumb enough to do this in front of D.

H is a very nice person who feels sorry for people in bad situations and tries to help them out. I've always been jealous, which has been an issue in our marriage. He's also always been flirtatious. He has low self-esteem, so this makes him feel good. My mother left my father for someone else, so I have my own baggage in this area.

I've accused him several times of having an affair. This has caused us major problems, and he brought it up on Monday. He said he is tired of being accused. That is why he told me there was no one else.

I am somewhat insecure in our relationship and jealous. I do not like the flirting, etc. We had a discussion about it years ago and I told him I didn't like it and that women took his behavior wrong. He told me not all women thought like I did (yeah, right.

H is home every night. There are no odd phone calls at night, he is not out late. I pay all bills, personal and business. If he's had an affair, it was EA only.

He said he would move if he had to but I cannot afford this house and don't want the memories. He also inherited the house from his mother.

I also know that he feels guilty and is trying to justify the situation. I think he is trying to convince himself this is what he wants.