Hi Water, he is obviously in some kind of conundrum and overwhelmed. Backing off the talk about going there would prob. be a good idea. Let him come after you some. Glad you are staying so upbeat!
Yes, you never know what you are going to get with a depressed person. (speaking from first hand experience) - as you can see i can go a couple days feeling great, then a couple feeling lousy, then one good, then 2 bad, 4 good, etc. It is very confusing to be the person HAVING those feelings. Certainly, I don't want to bring anyone else down. He prob. feels the same way (+ he's a man -lucky for you)-and doesn't want to "burden" you and prob. wants to "solve things on his own." Best thing to do-try to put out your feelers-if he seems like he wants attn., give it to him, and if he seems aloof/distant, let him be. And, oc, listen, which you have been doing VERY WELL!
He is lucky to have you-keep reminding yourself that!! karen
-lucky for you)-and doesn't want to "burden" you and prob. wants to "solve things on his own." Best thing to do-try to put out your feelers-if he seems like he wants attn., give it to him, and if he seems aloof/distant, let him be. And, oc, listen, which you have been doing VERY WELL! 
