If She Won't Stop the Affair?

[2chiquitos]

That's why I need to detach. I need to separate my emotions from her so I don't mind read or make assumptions. I just believe that as long as I stay, I cannot do this. I want to NC and GAL and not let my feelings for her get in the way.

When H went on a trip with OW back around xmas I FLIPPED!! I totally ripped him a new a--! I think back on xmas eve and xmas day and it was HORRIBLE! The following day I left for 2weeks with the kids. I was out to for vengeance. I came back believing that I would detach if only I saw more evidence of them. I found pictures of them kissing and a very romantic email from H to OW. I thought that would help me detach for sure!

Here I am 7mos later and not detached! My advice to you. Don't take that trip personal! She is pushing the limits but you need to set boundaries (ex. I should have said, I don't want you spending any of our money on your new R) Regardless, it's going to hurt, a lot! So as unconsoling as this may sound express your anger and hurt in positive ways. Ex. exercising (bike riding, swimming, running, golfing). I wish I had done this instead of taking it out on him. It took us a long time to recover from that trip.

Talk to neutral people (us for example!). write out your frustrations. dig deep when you do this. Learn something new. Something that requires a lot of brain work. Ex. play an instrument, get (another) degree.

You are still int he early stages of this journey and may (or may not) have a long road ahead of you. Take care of yourself! so you can take care of your kids. They are watching your every move...