Sounds like you are doing a good job of detaching and GALing Nblsost. My H and I lived in limbo land like that for a while too. Until I actually moved on in my heart and mind and starting planning my life without him, he finally woke up and realized he would lose me forever. Until then, he was playing me and the OW keeping his options open. In my opinion, he needs to feel like you have moved on and he has lost you. When that happens you will know, because he will do ANYTHING to keep you, including no contact with OW, full transparency, changing jobs, etc.
Man, if I have read this (or something very close to it) on here once, I've read it 500 times . . .
That's how it works, folks.
Starsky
Yep...that's how it worked in my situation, too!
Nb, you are doing a great job! Just keep taking things day by day and don't worry too much with what-ifs right now (I know...easier said than done). You have taken control of your personal life and are living it to the fullest. If he decides to recommit, the ball is in your court on if he fits into your new and improved life.
