I want you to think about this for a minute. I had the same questions as you and was getting as frustrated with things as you are right now. Could not see how things were going to work and so on and so on.
I will give you some questions that the Lord gave me that I had to think about before the lightbulb went on. How long does it take you to change something that you have been doing for a very long period of time?
When the Lord is working on you about a particular part of yourself that you need to as for forgiveness for, how long does it take you to see it? Then once you start to see it, how long does it take you to accept yourself and realize that after the mistake you are okay?
How long does it take a person to really realize that the Lord loves them and would do nothing to hurt them? He shows everyone of this day in and day out and yet most of us still question his love for us. He died on the cross for each on of us and yet all of us still ask him if he is there and if he still cares about us.
That is why patience is called for. Your husband needs your encouragement, but he also needs to know that the Lord loves him as well. Think about it for a minute. Remember when the bomb hit and you started going on this journey that you did not ask to go on. Whom did you turn to for help? Like most of us it was the Lord and did someone help you to find the Lord, or did you just turn to him?
See your husband is looking for the same thing that you were when this started. He is looking for peace and he is looking for someone to love him no matter what he does, doesn't do, what he says or what he doesn't say. He has the same need that you did when this first started. He needs to know that someone loves him and someone wants him and someone believes in him. Those are all the things that the Lord gave you through so many different ways and so many different people.
You are doing all the things for your husband that the Lord did for you. You are letting the Lord shine through you and the greatest gift that you can give your husband is the Lord. Then he has the same great gift of life that you have. That is the best gift that you can give your husband.
Just like you, he will be able to feel worthy to be your mate and he will be strong again.
