Ex's Are Like a Virus...They Never Really Go Away!

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The ages on the signature was at bomb. DD is 13, DS is now 11. Friend tells me judges ask kids who they prefer to live with (and takes answer into consideration) at age13 in my state. We have "joint, shared custody" which means they live with both of us 50/50. DS and I had a long talk about tge custody thing yesterday. He doesn't want things to change.

Counselor who saw X alone for years and we later saw together says she has borderline personality. She was abused. Her father was a Federal agent who went undercover for months at a time, wore two guns and had others hidden around the house. X said when he would come back they sometimes didn't recognize him. I think he went too deep or something snapped in him. He did some bizzare, abusive stuff. X has several of his firearms. I don't think two of them can be legally posessed by individuals in the state where he lives.

At separation I noticed she was behaving like she described her father's behavior (in some respects).
I'll take the kids (I always have and always will). Thanks for the suggestion of counseling. I could have filed charges against her twice during split for physical assault. The first time I just filed a police report and pictures of my bruises were taken. The second time she hit me in front of the kids and I thought involving the police would traumatize them further (questioning, possibly seeing their mother arrested) so I did nothing.

OMH's first wife was bipolar (repeated patterns within repeated patterns?). One day out if the blue X said to me, "Im not bipolar". That makes me believe he's suggested to her she is.