- That i didn't start posting here early enough (while we still lived together). If i had, maybe my marriage would have been saved.
- That i stayed so long, even as he continued to ignore my boundaries (the main one being his not coming home at night)
I have almost succeeded in forgiving myself for everything else (being controlling as he called me, lashing out at him verbally, calling his mum to complain in hope that she would speak some sense into him, not being fully 'there' when i was pregnant due to the fact that i was so sick, etc). I am working on letting go of H and forgiving him now, but I am finding that really difficult.
Just realize that nothing you could have DONE would have changed this outcome. You did not break him and you can not fix him. Good job foregiving yourself for those things that you did do. We all make mistakes and no one is perfect. You do the best that you can do with what life presents you. You just must have faith that everything will work out the way it is suppose too.
You can CONTROL you and no one else.
Originally Posted By: tonibertha
So when i got home yesterday, i apologised and she ignored me. Reminds me how she used to give my dad the silent treatment, which HE couldn't handle. Since i've apologised, i feel at peace with the situation.
Good job I too am glad you apologised. Now let it go and see what happens.
