Thread #2: Developing Self Esteeem

[NASCARDaddy]

If you are interested in my first thread, go here. After quite a bit of soul searching, prayer, and talking to people in this and other communities, I have come to realize that the problems I have that have led to W asking me to move out and filing for divorce stem from chronic low self esteem. So I am setting out on a quest to try and find ways to develop and keep high self esteem so that I will not slip back into old negative patterns. The problem is that I don't know where to begin. I think that one of the first things I need to change is my self talk. I have always talked to myself in a negative manner since I can remember and even when I receive a complement from someone, there is a voice in the back of my head that says "yeah right, they just say that because they don't know you."

So what I need from all of you is this. I need suggestions on how to both improve my self talk and my self esteem in general.