New to DB

[hopefulinga]

Thanks everyone!! Venting sure helped. I was able to greet him in a cheerful manner last night. He sent our D to bed last night and stayed up to watch the Olympics. I got a little worried that D would come up after that, but it did not, much to my relief. Also, Mr. Don't Cook For Me came home for dinner, albeit a little late. No complaints from me.

I've seen a counselor for many years. I am going to start trying to explore the reasons I have problems trusting and what I can do to build more trust. I also know that I need to continue to work on my 180 and communication style. For instance, when H told me I was smothering him, instead of saying I was leaving him alone, I should have acknoweldged his feelings.

I am going to re-read DR this weekend. I'm also exploring what was different, and I've changed one big thing. I've drastically cut back my alcohol consumption to one drink or less per evening. I know that I can be nasty when I drink, even if I am not drunk. I am also less likely to respond quickly.

I know that I do too many things, which overwhelms me and stresses me out. I am going to try to cut back on some of these activities so I can GAL. Watching the Olympics makes me realize how much I miss being involved in Sports, so there is another goal!